Picking a mate that has a mate value very similar to one’s own is important for longevity of relationships. Understanding that mate value changes over time is a critical part in lasting relationships also. Potential partners should look at where they and their potential partner currently are and what their long-term prospects for growth are. Being honest with one’s own mate value is as important as identifying their potential partner’s mate value. To find a “high value” mate, one needs to position themselves to be a “high value” partner as well. If there is too much of a discrepancy between the “mate values” of potential partners, the relationship will struggle to be successful. Priority mate values differ for everyone, some prefer confidence, others prefer financial security, dominance, or physical attributes.