We've all experienced a vast amount of emotions throughout our lives, whether it be happiness, anger, sadness, love, hate, fear, embarrassment, guilt, shame. By feeling these ways, we become driven into action that are critical for the active emotion. However, it's unethical to test some of these intense emotions, such as anger, fear, hate; we cannot force people to feel these ways in a lab, therefore we must resort to investigating them as they happen within natural settings.
I consider this unfortunate sometimes, because one emotion that always intrigued me that I could never understand was anger, and testing it isn't really an option. I grew up with a father who was in the Army, and as supportive and caring as he was, he had THE WORST anger from being in the military. This isn't uncommon, I'm sure everyone have experienced angry people in their life, but it just always made me wonder. I have never in my life physically damaged anything, hit anyone, thrown anything, verbally hurt anybody, despite how angry I could be. And yet, there's some people that resort to that. Why? What motivates one person to act in anger one way, and another handle it a completely different way? I know it's basically a matter of how we just are composed as people, but why do some people consider physically or verbal aggression a satisfying reaction to anger, and some people don't? Why wouldn't we handle our emotions the same way, when emotions generally are the same?
Basically, I spent my whole life trying to keep my dad from getting angry about anything. My emotion of fear drove me into the actions of keeping him from getting mad. I remember one time he ripped his shirt right down the middle off of his body like the Incredible Hulk because I wouldn't show him something I did at school. It was nuts. Nowadays though, he's found other ways to cope with his anger, and hasn't done anything drastic like that in years. He kind of went through his own personal anger management, and now we just laugh when we think back to all the crazy things he used to do when he got angry. It still makes me wonder though, what went through his head back then that he had to act those ways, because he obviously is doing just fine now not having to act that way.
Emotions are way more intense than I think we realize sometimes, and alot of our actions can become motivated uncontrollably because we feel so strongly about something. I feel like that can be a good thing or a bad thing. I feel like when it comes to anger, there are certain actions like murder, rape, violence, that are not entirely consciously motivated, but yet still happen because we just want to fulfill the needs of that emotion. It's scary to think about it, but without emotion, we'd probably have no motivation to even want to live.
|Stand-Up: Kevin Hart - Angry Old Man|