I completed the "Need to Belong" scale and scored a 34 on it. This means I have a stronge desire to want to be loved and to be accepted by others. Throughout my life, I have always been this way, especially when I was in highschool. I believe my brothers' popularity had an impact on me, making me want to be as liked as he is. Now that I am an adult, I do not need to have a lot of friends, but it is still very important for me to at least have acquaintances. I feel that all I need is to have a strong bond with my family and my boyfriend.
I work in a preschool as a teachers aid and I often watch children's films. Recently, I watched The Diary of a Wimpy Kid. It was an adorable movie that shows a perfect example of a child doing anything to be well liked. In the end, he realizes that all he needs is his one best friend because he liked him for who he is already.
Mark Leary is a professor at Duke University and the author of the "Need to Belong" scale. On Youtube, he discusses the difference between self compassion and having a high self esteem. Do you think the person who has the high self esteem is better off, or the person with self compassion? This insight was very moving because it shows that one should not dwell on their mistakes and feel bad about themselves because everyone does something embarressing in life. It is important to move on, own up to our mistakes, and to learn and grow as an individual.