Wednesday, July 29, 2020
post 3 reproduction- selecting a mate
Within the reproductive slides I learned something that I was not expecting, the value of a mate. Until this class, I never really thought about what to look for in a mate. Due to my previous bad relationship, I suppose I have only ever thought about what i do NOT want in a mate. I found the mate value inventory to be very interesting as it made me wonder if people really scale their future mate in this way. I could talk about this topic forever with how much I have learned but overall, everyone has their own attractiveness. For example, I can find a man attractive while my best friend does not, does this mean he is unattractive? Or is it that what my friend is looking for in a mate differs from my own desires. We are all made up of our own genetics which makes each of us unique. What do you look for in a mate? Personally I look for characteristics such as strength both mentally and physically to outweigh my own weaknesses, someone who is compassionate and affectionate who is always pushing me to do my best. Remember that it is normal to have different opinions and perspectives of people, just because your friend does not see your mate as a good one does not mean that he is in fact not a good mate for you but maybe has none of the specific characteristics your friend is looking for herself in a mate.