Monday, August 8, 2016
I Used to be a Victim of Mate Poaching
I found the topic of "Mate Poaching" to be the most intriguing to me because I was easily able to relate to being the victim of it for many years I just never knew what to call it. There is always a universal code between boys and girls where 1. You don't pursue a friend's current significant other. 2. You don't date an ex of a friend. 3. You and your friends don't pursue the same people. These are all pretty decent codes I believe can help maintain a friendship so long as they remain unbroken. My first boyfriend was a freshman with me when we first started dating. Two months later he was mate poached by a senior girl who he is actually now married to. This happened maybe two more times to me in high school until I decided to stop dating until midway through my senior year of high school. But it started up again soon after I went to college, I wasn't able to make a girl friend because after I would start talking to a guy and dating, by my dumb luck, I would be single a month later and the girl who I thought would be a new friend would be seeing the guy I told them I had a thing with. It didn't bother me so much in high school but when it continued to happen in college it was really just a kick in the teeth and a put an unbelievably huge damper on my self esteem for a couple years and damaged my trust in a lot of people. Luckily now I've finally met someone who I've been with for a while and see an actual future with. To me children seem to like their eggs poached or scrambled more than adults, but only a real man can handle taking an egg raw.