Thursday, September 29, 2011

Mate Selection

In class on Tuesday we talked about universal motives. Universal motives determine the commonality of what motivates us. In a clip that we watched in class girls were motivated to select mates based on what their status was. This is very common now for people to base their selection on how wealthy a person is or what they have to show off. One thing that this can lead to which was a topic of interest for me was jealousy. Jealousy is a secondary emotion and typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, particularly in reference to a human connection. A lot of women want the have the best guy to show off and in some case these women don’t care what it takes to get this man. Women become very jealous of things they can’t have and this brings up the motive of mate poaching. Mate poaching refers to an attempt to attract someone who is already in a romantic relationship in order to form either a short-term or long-term relationship with the poached individual. Men are more likely to give in to the temptation of short-term poaching.


  1. The video that we watched in class was really interesting. It was intriguing to see that some women pick a man just to show him off while others just want anyone. Its kinda sad that sometimes women just think this way.

  2. As an emerging adult, I find myself questioning mate selection maybe too much. In my eyes, I found multiple mates whom I have developed connections with but even when the mate who seems to be everything I could hope for, it all depends on her decision (heterosexual) if she will be with me or continue to pursue something better. It's a man's world which women rule.. damn you lol.